‘An ear for men’ ; Is life dealing you a set of killer queen beesss?
I have been sharing strategies and insights before on how to deal with highly manipulative individuals who can easily be diagnosed with BPD.
By typing keywords into my website, you can find some good articles about it hopefully. This whole website is basically a maze of my brain, and a maze is a fun game, so search for specific keywords and you might find the right story for you!
I will be less cryptic and vague if you give something in return, since apparently you HAVE to make a living in this world.
My shopping list is on my front page, open for negotiations 😉
I would like to make a digital community around this website so to build a support group for victims of emotional and psychological abuse. Not just victims of such things, but to actually create a supportive digital and physical platform in which people can thrive more rather then merely survive and throw all integrity out of the window. After I finish my thesis on ‘How to thrive in our age and time’, I will go travel again and learn more about architecture, farming and more solid, concrete stuff to provide in material needs if necessary when I come back. I recently read in the Dutch newspaper that the economy is shifting to more low conjuncture needs, as needs for health care and housing is increasing rather then higher expressions of human potential. I have pointed out on my website that this is a real possibility in our age and time where from my view we are experiencing a pseudo stability of economics, rather then actual stability. I assert this statement based upon the research I have done so far of The Netherlands but also the world at large during my travels.
I will upload my conclusions of my research questions in Dutch and English for those who are interested in my findings.
So back on topic;
I can talk out of personal experience how damaging a psychological or emotional attack can be. So I am not just rehearsing stuff out of a book, but I do my best to talk mostly out of personal experience and collecting my own facts. In many ways the crime is much more intense and worse then physical rape. Mind control, mind parasitism and taking over someones mind is heavily karmic and can cause tremendous amount of suffering in ones life. If people discover that you are manipulating them or even taking over their mind then sooner or later they will discover it and seek revenge. This is simply human nature and how the game of life is set up. If you hurt someone deeply then the victim will probably seek revenge, you reap what you sow in that regard and the victim becomes the attacker vice versa.. The attacker and victim remain stuck in co-dependency until the energy imbalances and damage is resolved. Depending on how graceful or forgiving the victim is, but mostly, life will probably become more shitty if you really damage someone in this way. It can ruin the whole lifetime of as well the attacker as the victim by remaining stuck in revenge loops. Despite that, you can only treat others in such a damaging way if you shut down your sense of empathy and compassion towards your fellow being. You are then a robot basically, just thinking, moving, thinking, moving, without considering the impact of your behavior upon others. Personally, the best way to deal with such things is to learn how to be graceful in ones relationships. This is why I am saying that the best way to remain at peace is to dismantle the weapons of the enemy, and do ones best to learn them another way of being alive.
Again, I mostly write from personal experience and insight, I do not have any degrees in psychology, but I am an autodidact student of it, and it is part of this mission for you. So I have no need to prove anything to anyone, just reap your benefits and add what is specifically your own. It is my mission, so I will do it anyway, if I get paid for it or not.
I have had my teachers so far, and my dose of twitchy women in my life, who showed me in a harsh way how painful and damaging emotional abuse can be. My assumption, which I still have to verify through the method of Socratic principles, is that there has been abuse in my family systems, as many family systems on this planet have been through in this time and age. And when you as a child are born into dysfunctional family systems, you conform out of survival reasons and see such a system as normal interpersonal behavior. So for those who are born into dysfunctional family systems, I would like to suggest to do some deep inner soul searching and discern for yourself how you should treat your friends, colleagues, significant others et cetera.
I jump into such relationships consciously, because I know the immense collateral damage this can create if a man allows a twitchy wife to take over his mind and emotions. He will basically become a device in the hands of an unstable woman, which can cause the most horrible of tyrants. So that makes me an undercover Martyr, but it was my hope that by doing my best to be a good partner, a person with BPD can heal themselves. Besides that, the best way to learn how a parasite operates is to take them in, and then learn how to get rid of them. It is kind off a weird borg move, but it had some good therapeutic effects from my experience.
A man must learn to command his own emotions and mind, and there are teachers who can support men in this. Men are often too pride in my experience to share such intimacies, but I see this as fear actually, not an actual strength. There is nothing to loose except for your fear of being vulnerable. Besides, crying and being honest with ones emotions has a cathartic release, and should not be seen as being a pussy. It will only make you stronger as a man if you have the courage to face your emotions and learn how to deal with it, instead of facing the danger of becoming an emotional volcano and act it out on your twitchy wife, children or environment. Plus, if you learn about your anima sides then you don’t need women anymore, you can then create fulfilling independent relationships with significant others instead of remaining stuck in co-dependency for the rest of ones lifetime.
So this is why I sometimes choose to be a litter Martyriss, for the sake of gaining a deeper understanding of the human psyche.
It truly amazes me how complex the neurotic ego has become, so I kinda have to be this sneaky undercover detective sometimes in order to gain an understanding of it.
Luckily, I have found the emotional escape button to shut down my limbic system and jump into autistic mode when I am faced with projected emotional wrath :p
Creating ice walls around you makes a pretty good borderline extinguisher.
It is a pretty unique skill, because otherwise I would have been taken over by killer queens and lionesses so far as well.
Ice walls are recommendable when an emotional volcano hits your life. You can fight fire with fire, it will work temporarily, because the effect is that the stronger fire takes in the lesser fire. Providing that your mind is strong enough to do that, but because BPD or killer queen bees are probably stronger then you in thatom mind, you must come up with other strategies to protect yourself.
This is really my own fault b.t.w. , because I can get alarm bells ringing when meeting a new person in my life, and it is just my curiosity that I want to check what these alarm bells actually mean.
So I might be one of the few man still alive and stable enough to tell the tail of how it is to be in a relationship with individuals who can be diagnosed with BPD. I am not exaggerating, in my conscious memory it has been one of my biggest psychological and emotional challenges so far to deal with such individuals in a responsible way without revenging my suffering, cause I promise you that it won’t be a nice experience if you make me mad. My theory about how BPD is created is that it runs very deep, deeper then what most psychologists are aware of. Because the causes run so deeply, the psychological community has no clue how to deal with such a mental disease from my perspective. This is due to the limitations of the current scientific paradigms. Besides that, in my experience such individuals have amazingly strong minds, often much stronger then my mind, and it is my theory that this is due to much abuse in their individual memory and consciousness. By being physically abused, your only choice will be to escape within your mind and disassociate yourself from the suffering. I mean if your body is weaker then your enemy, you have to use other sources of strength in order to protect yourself, hence the reason why I think the minds of BPD’s are insanely strong, too strong to be honest, cause they are way to unstable to handle their powers. It creates killer queen bees, which hopefully have a sense of discernment upon whom they want to seek revenge :p
It makes sense, most BPD’s are women, and women have been abused for centuries on this planet. The patriarchal systems on this planet have been intensely destructive and outbalanced to the degree that even planet earth is heavily damaged. I remember someone told me that brothels are one of the first business models, so imagine how deep this trauma can run and how long it takes before such a trauma can be digested and balanced.
So the trauma most run very deeply by following this theory, and because it runs very deeply, most psychologists have no clue how to deal with such an individual because they are treating symptoms not root causes.
So I had to deal with my own psychological issues not to fall into the pussy trap and other recipes for co;dependency, cause many people who can be diagnosed with BDP are highly sexual, seductive and attractive what I understand of it. Plus, many twitchy ladies are very attractive to begin with. The best woman in my life so far haven’t been physically attractive at all, and are probably not raped and abused by men which probably is one of the causes of BDP to begin with. They are probably not raped because they are not physically attractive, which is kind of a blessing in disguise I guess.
Personally, I have been in undercover relationships with individuals who could have easily been diagnosed by such a dis;ease. I came to be aware about the science by checking my intuitive perceptions about it. In my personal experience it is probably wiser to keep such individuals at a distance for most men, mainly because they are acting out a lot of trauma unconsciously and in my experience tend to forget what happened actually until you refresh their memory. Which means they do it unconsciously and they are often much stronger in tha(atom world) mind, then most men I know. So if you think you are stronger then your twitchy wife, then good luck with it! Best bet is to remain humble, because resistance is futile if it boils down to twitchy ladies who created fort knox mind powers.
What is even more difficult about this criminal investigation case is that mindfucking or emotional manipulation is very hard to make a case about. Sexual rape is much more in the picture so to speak, plus the shame that comes with emotional or psychological rape is what most men discourage to tell it and share it with a support group and also the fear that nobody will believe them. I would recommend to play out the shameless trickster and seek support if you need support.
I think most people who show criminal behavior are often acting out of their shadow parts of their personality and psyche, without necessarily being aware of it. The collateral damage is horrible off course, but this is a very important distinction to make I think. If a person is damaging others or the environment unconsciously because of heavy trauma or whatever, then this changes my approach towards them. It still is, obviously, very dangerous, especially if you come to notice that many leadership positions are also filled with unstable personalities in this world. Plus, I am of the opinion the current institutions are oftentimes during more harm then good to help such individuals in reclaiming a normal life, for as well the victim as the criminal. Most institutions what I know of it, do not address emotional and energetic areas of the psyche or talk about the mechanics of the mind and beyond, but limit psychology to simply neurons and the brain and want to give you a pill for every ill. It might work on the short term, but fails on giving you any sort of sustainable result.
I can write Romans and books about this story which I probably will and include into my final thesis, but I would like to share a video from YouTube for those who are victims of emotional and psychological abuse or maybe even physical abuse by women, this is also not uncommon, since we have many passive man currently, or boys who are being raped by older women. Most feminist probably won’t like to hear this, but very intense feminist women are probably investing more into the patriarchal destructive systems on this planet then actually doing something constructive to change it. You truly can become the enemy you fight in this sense and make things worse then they already are. Feel free to disagree, but just feel again, and see the suffering instead of mimicking ones attackers.
Sexual abuse is one thing, and a level of crime which is nothing compared to mindfucking.
Mind parasitism and mind fucking is a whole other ball game, which is highly damaging for someone if he or she is not aware that this is occurring and can cause many forms of revenge when discovered by the victim, which will only cause more suffering.
I mean just think about it, when you are deeply manipulated you loose all sense of identity and ability to walk your path, so when you discover what has happened, revenge will be sweet, if you even discover that as a man, since most men have no clue how emotions or mind powers work since they are always so busy pleasing their twitchy wifes… I don’t mean to offend anyone here, but Sigmund Freud did had a point when he said we are all likely to kill our dad and marry our mom. Oedipus did create a lot of collateral damage for his town and society in doing so, and this time the damage is so intensely large, you cannot expect the new generations to clean up the mess for you. There is a lot of work to be done in order to aim for more stability in our age and time from my view, and the so called ‘strong’ individuals in a society are not always as likely to take upon that responsibility when a general mass of society remains passive and reactive instead of proactive.
If the manipulation runs so deeply that a person forgets his or hers identity and the nature of reality (quantum physics for example) then he or she looses his or hers ability to navigate their lifetimes effectively. So deep mindfucking can cause lifetimes of pain and suffering for the victims. I recently wrote that as children we probably are all still connected with quantumphysics, but society and the current school systems oftentimes fuck our minds into believing that the scientific method is all their is for example.
This makes the whole human race a collective mindfuck, which is a very limiting factor in a lifetime and probably one of the reasons why this planet as a whole is limited to begin with.
It can cause many nasty mental diseases like for example paranoia, hysteria or insomnia in my experience when you are dealing with mindfuckers and parasites.
Luckily I am not easily manipulated, and I have my methods for undoing the manipulation pretty quickly for those who are interested and are victims of such an abuse. I also have insight and working on methods to reactivated your memory systems so that you enable yourself with objective facts what happened with your personal life and personal trauma’s.
This video can equip you pretty good with another survivor of BPD from what I see in his frustrations about this :p He points it out pretty clearly and gives good tips and hints how to deal with such individuals.
And this is not to demonize women or borderliners, all this is, is informational awareness, personal experience and research. BPD’s individuals are much, much more then their mental illness, and it is important to support and love them, otherwise they can easily turn into psychopaths.
Truly, I love these women, cause I can feel their suffering intensely. Such women are so much stronger then many men in today’s age. These really are an image of how a Viking woman must have been! I just truly hope that they also have the grace of a yogini to forgive the men that abused them so that they might attract proper men instead of becoming killer queen bees and hurting innocent men.
Which is something I won’t accept. From my view, these times of peace are meant to explore our deepest emotional triggers, and heal ourselves so that we enable ourselves to heal others.
And again, if you heed for my insights, stories and sound advises, blame messenger!