When passion becomes a drag
It could be a relationship you are currently in or some job you really love doing. I guess we can all relate with the feeling that even the most interesting things will become boring over time. What people today will call ADD or ADHD is what I call ‘eager to learn syndrome’. I personally have a very wide interest and I am passionate about many things. However, boredom does strike me when I go pass a certain threshold of intensity. You know, when you have given it the utmost amount of focus and attention that there is no way possible that you can ‘get more from it’. I would argue that this reactive state is not serving you well when you find yourself switching from partners, hobbies and careers all the time. We have an essential need for renewal and sometimes patience is necessary. So when you think you know everything, you actually know very little. Given time, any field of interest or partner will change or evolve into something more advanced or different. So giving up on your passion because it becomes to disciplined is not always the best way to go about it.
It could very well be that you turn into ‘that leave in the wind guy’. This never results in true mastery about anything, except for maybe knowing how to switch lifestyles very quickly. And off course, there is no good or wrong in this philosophy, but when the goal is mastery then the thing you fell in love with in the beginning still has a certain element of interest for you. I know you cannot really ‘master’ your girlfriend, but still, there is something that you found interesting that is still there and can be cultivated.
So the idea is that you innovate on the thing you love to do. It seems we all need change when things become routine, doll and stagnate. Routine work will produce results, but is very damaging for our level of participation. A healthy balance between the disciplined mind and the renewed heart is what I believe works best when you want to turn passion into mastery, love into marriage.
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