”If you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company” Jean-Paul Satre
We are currently living in an age and time where it has become difficult to practice solitude or being purely on yourself for longer durations of time. The technology boom of recent decennials is evoking a strong desire to stay connected with your entire social network of bits and bytes as much as possible and preferably as soon as possible too. This tendency is actually making us dependent on this technology and the companies who are making these tools are fully aware and are enjoying the profits they make on the lack of self-reliance of most people.
Today’s high level of consistent marketing activities are consciously or unconsciously brain washing the weaker minded people and by doing so they are lowering the awareness of their fellow men, instead of increasing their awareness. The world we are living in today is one of many distractions and, therefore, also one of the biggest learning platforms for creating your own life and becoming the best you can be. If you are reading this with some level of understanding then you probably already have the awareness necessary to make your own decisions in life without the influence of your environment.
Practising solitude is a long forgotten art in today’s society and, therefore, one of the biggest challenges you can embrace, especially during this enjoyable month of good foods and the reunion of the family members. It may sound like a contradictory state of mind by not choosing to see your family and best friends during this time of year, and probably it is and feels like that. Already by thinking about it you will feel unconformable and unsatisfied by it. I only write to the people who are willing to stick with this feeling and act on it accordingly.
If you are in this state of mind and you feel utterly lonely then you probably have a very bad and weak self-image and, therefore, are setting yourself up for many disappointments in your life which are holding yourself back for becoming a stronger individual. In the long run it only matters what you are thinking about yourself in every moment of your daily life and not what others think. If you are disgusted by yourself when you are completely on yourself for longer periods of time then you are probably identified by how the world is looking upon you instead of how you are looking upon yourself. This may sound like a selfish and rude approach towards society and your environment, but as I have said before, today’s society is bombarded with distractions you do not really need to life a joyful life.
If you go down this path you will receive a lot of friction from your environment, especially if most of your friends are just bits and bytes. Pay close attention to the people that are accepting your behaviour and allow you in becoming a stronger individual during this progress and show them your love when you have finished your journey of self-love and solitude. It depends on the individual which moments he or she chooses to practice solitude and also the duration of it. Remember that the biggest challenge of solitude is one where your environment is trying to pull you back. This is probably because they need you at some level and it is up to you if you are willing to fulfil their needs right now or choose to invest in yourself so that you can give them who really matter more in the future.